Cam Sex Couples: Jesse-Style

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Cam Sex Couples Need Not Always Be People

As those of y’all who’ve known me for way too long probably remember, back when I started out as a camgirl I was part of a duo, cam sex couples-style was really all I knew. My now husband, then fuck buddy/one-night-stand-who-never-left (potAto, potahto) was my partner in crime, and while it was fun and all at the beginning truth is I really didn’t enjoy my private sex life being scripted by others. The day the sex started feeling staged, and truth be told that occurred pretty early on, we were done. I really liked camming though, camming as a couple wasn’t fun but solo I met so many wicked people, people who to this day somehow haven’t grown horribly bored with me yet :).

Recently though I realized that I’m way back into cam sex couples sessions, only this time my partner in crime is my magnificent strap-on Xavier who’s been fucking fucking faces, tight little asses and winning hearts and minds all over the globe. While I love it the situation is somewhat hilarious to me, I never dreamt I’d be (occasionally) upstaged by a purple dildo.

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Truth is, before I got Xavier I never knew how much fun I could have with a cock on cam. Instead of receiving requests that ended up making intimate moments feel contrived like back in the old days, now as a cam sex couple Xavier and I are the boss(es). I make the rules, and cam sex couples-style has never been more fun. I’ve been told I always had a cock (I can be a tad bossy now and then) but turns out I can fuck like a guy too, and really fucking well at that. With Xavier vibrating against my clit I transform into Lady J, in turns sensual domination Goddess or stern Mistress to be feared as well as obeyed, and with Xavier we are, if I may say, the ultimate in cam sex couples.

As much as I adore Xavier, wielding him, touching him, enjoying the way he makes me cum so exquisitely whilst I fuck your face, I think I get almost more delight over how popular he is with y’all. I do find it hilarious that he’s become such an intensely requested part of my skype cam shows, but at the same time I think it’s awesome that finally I found a cam sex couples style of camming that works for all of us, me included.

I have to admit, back when I started as a camgirl all those many years ago I never thought I’d end up doing a 180 degree turn back into the cam sex couples arena. Life is funny that way. Now get down on your knees, part your lips and beg for it. 🙂

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A Skype Cam Swimsuit Contest

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Well, let’s call it a skype cam swimsuit contest without the competitive component, because truth is both me and my delectable skype cam boy toy look absolutely ravishing in our beach attire. 🙂

Recently my skype cam boy toy and I got to celebrate two pretty wicked things recently (his birthday and my escape from the cold) and what better way to celebrate than lounging in my bed fort on skype, him tipping back some very hoity toity white wine in a box and me pounding back energy drinks (it’s always hours earlier over here so I can’t often justify getting tanked on cam at noon, alas).  The only thing that could make it better? Swimsuits of course. 😀

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I was in my colorful aqua bikini, as my new thoroughly slutty wicked weasel bathing suit (see below) hadn’t arrived yet, and my skype cam boy toy was in a delicious two piece ensemble that perfectly displayed his delectable derriere. They unfortunately don’t make swimsuits like they used to though. Such horrific craftsmanship, both of us kept slipping out of our swimsuits which you could imagine was quite embarrassing for modest individuals such as ourselves.

I can hardly wait until I’m out of arctic Canada for good, and as soon as I get down to my new home in the perpetual sun my skype cam boy toy and I will have our first ever poolside hook-up, which after 5 long years is sorely overdue. I hope I don’t accidentally get my new swimsuit wet though, according to a certain Irish pup who purchased it for me it becomes translucent when exposed to water. 🙂 I’m not I’m supposed to get presents on other people’s birthdays but that’s just the sort of person my boy toy is. He also delighted me with a pic I dared him to take in an Irish pub.

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See? We’re practically twins, no competition here. Rather it’s just an average afternoon in March, lounging in our slutty slutty swimwear. 🙂

Debunking Payment Processing Myths for Indy Cam Girls

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Recently on a camgirl forum of which I’m a member and moderator, I read a thread about payment processing for indy cam girls that contained a whole bunch of myths and incorrect information. Since evidently some of these myths and fallacies are pretty wide-spread, as judged by the comments in the forum thread, I figured I’d take a moment to debunk some of the main fallacies I encountered.

In writing this, please note I’m discussing payment processing for indy cam girls from the standpoint of someone who uses payment processing for individual, non-recurring payments from customers. Indy cam girls who run paysites have different needs and concerns (recurring monthly payments from customers, affiliate programs, etc).

Myth 1:  Indy Cam Girls and Affiliates Have the Same Needs

In discussions about different payment processing options for indy cam girls, many camgirls believe that CCBill is the best option to choose, simply because CCBill has long been a consistent leader in processing for adult porn sites. In truth, while CCBill is a great option, at 85% payout it offers one of the lowest payouts among the main processing options (CCBill, Zombaio, Epoch and Verotel) and charges $1000 per year in order to be able to accept Visa and Mastercard. The reason why CCBill has long been a leader in payment processing for adult porn sites is because affiliates who promote porn sites prefer subaccount systems wherein payments are sent directly from the processor (in this case, CCBill).  In this way, indy cam girls who use listing services and affiliates do have an interest in common, in that processing systems that allow for sub-account payouts minimize risk of losing one’s funds should the owner of the website decide to close up shop.

It was only fairly recently that Epoch, Zombaio et al. created payout systems similar to CCBill affiliate programs, meaning that until recently adult sites that paid out with CCBill offered far more protection than other options. That’s part of the reason for CCBill’s popularity. As indy cam girls who run our own websites and handle our own processing, the security aspect of CCBill affiliate systems isn’t relevant, as we handle our own payouts for ourselves.

Myth Number 2: Zombaio Decline Rates

One of the main criticisms I read about Zombaio involve the supposed sky-high decline rates characteristic of this processor. In truth, a few years back Zombaio did have an annoyingly high decline rate but that has diminished significantly over the past two years, to the point that my customer credit card decline rate is actually slightly lower than my decline rate for processors I use elsewhere. I don’t have any broad stats on Zombaio decline rates, I’m only basing this on my own personal, anecdotal experience. Please don’t take my opinion for anything more than that. That said, in the 14 months I’ve had a high and steady volume of client bookings through my own Zombaio account, and my decline rate has been incredibly low. As an added bonus, Zombaio blocks the types of fraudulent bookings other processors can let slip through, such as male customers who use female names (a HUGE warning sign for stolen credit cards) and temporary email accounts.

With Zombaio, I’ve found two types of customers may encounter issues making payments: those who use a proxy IP and those who are based in the US and don’t have their credit cards set up to allow for international billing.  That said, allowing international payments and whitelisting Zombaio with a credit card company/bank only takes a quick phone call, and again, sometimes other billers require the same sort of thing. Yes, it’s a pain in the ass for all involved, but it’s not frequent and pretty easy to solve.

I’m not trying to promote Zombaio. I have no affiliation with the company and there’s nothing ‘in it’ for me to write this, I’m simply relaying a personal experience that belies a lot of the criticism I’ve heard about this particular processor.

Myth Number 3: Indy Cam Girls With Members Sites Have the Same Concerns as Indy Girls Who Only Accept Individual Payments

While I have had a great experience with Zombaio in the 14 months thus far that I’ve had my own merchant account, if I was building a paysite I would probably investigate other options. The reason why is that many affiliates seem to have bought into the same myths about Zombaio as have indy cam girls, and beyond that for some reason Zombaio charges quite a steep fee simply to send an affiliate payout via check in  regular mail. If I was running a pay site that relied upon an affiliate program, I’d probably want to choose a processor that is most popular amongst affiliates, as a way to encourage them to promote my site. That said, indy cam girls who book only individual, non-recurring payments from our clients we don’t need to take anyone’s concerns into account other than our own.

There are never any guarantees in life. Major adult IPSPs (internet payment service providers) have closed in the past and it’s entirely conceivable that something horrible could happen again in the future to mimic the fall of iBill and ePassporte. For that reason I personally think it’s wise to keep one’s options open, and always have alternate payment options, even for indy cam girls who have our own merchant accounts. That said, in choosing a primary processor it helps to make choices based on careful consideration instead of rumor. If you’re an independent camgirl in the process of selecting an IPSP, I hope this post marks the beginning of your search to find the option that’s best for you, based on your own circumstances, customer base and business needs. All of the processors mentioned in this post have websites where you can check out the rates, fees and restrictions of each option.

Good luck out there and happy camming. 🙂

Skype Webcam Shows Inspire Orgasms, Not Ovations

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Skype Webcam Shows Culminate With Orgasms, Not Ovations….

Because there are no ‘shows’ in skype webcams shows 🙂 I came up with this new motto in an after-glow bliss after a particularly intense skype webcam show with a playmate who led ME down a garden path into a sensual, erotic, and slightly (deliciously) twisted fantasy that left us both a little giddy and breathless. This particular playmate was new to skype webcam shows, in fact I had the honor of inaugurating him into this little corner of the webcam sex world, and I think I blew his mind slightly. I hope I did, because the favor was definitely returned in kind.

Ultimately the absence of routine is my favorite thing about skype webcam shows compared to the mainstream cam sites I used what feels like decades ago (although technically it’s been five years). I never feel like I’m ‘performing’ for someone, rather, I experience things with my playmates, co-creating something wholly organic that speaks to us at that specific moment, in a specific mood. The opposite of a ‘show’. Sure every now and then I encounter a guy who wants a ‘faster, harder, do twelve different positions for me in 10 minutes bb’, but luckily those types are few and far between amongst the guys who are drawn to skype webcam shows, and I’m a happier (and far more satisfied) camgirl because of that. 🙂

I know I typically write about fetish skype webcam shows here on my cam sex blog, but I felt this experience warranted an entry even beyond introducing my new little motto upon the world, as it really illustrates how wicked skype webcam shows can be when the bullshit parameters of the cam sites are taken out of the equation, when two people in search of something both intense and profound encounter each other and let the magic happen.

That’s what skype webcam shows are about, two people coming together to share a moment that is far hotter than any specific sex act could ever be. Ovations are for stages, full stop. Skype webcam shows are about inspiring something far more satisfying.

Love Your Independent Cam Work

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Ok, first off I want to state that even though I love independent cam work I know even the best job has crappy days, so this isn’t some fan service piece on why each and every client/shift/day is oh-so perfect. Life is life, and some days suck no matter what one’s occupation. That said, what inspired this post was an email I received from a newly independent cam girl who basically composed a rant delineating everything she hates about the job, and then inquiring as to how she could boost her independent cam show income. Huh?

Independent Cam Work Can Be Anything We Want It To Be

The above title is why I love independent cam work; I can shape it to suit my needs, my interests, my lifestyle. I’d actually argue that all camgirls possess this advantage but as independent cam girls we have more latitude than most. We don’t have to worry about cam site rules, customs and preferences, we can organize our work and shape our personas to suit us, rather than the other way around. That’s what I found so surprising about the aforementioned email I received, the chica was complaining about aspects of her work that are entirely under her own control, aspects that she has the power to alter.

Feeling burned out and need a break from skype and live cam shows? Shoot videos and post them for your regular clients to enjoy in your absence, or post your phone sex line for live sex without the cam component. Offer text chat over skype, or just ignore your messengers until your favorite clients drop by. Tired of trolls asking for paypal and previews? Ignore and move on. Most camgirls don’t have the luxury of being able to direct our playmates to any site or service we choose, so to not take advantage of this benefit when need be is to miss out on one of the coolest features of independent cam work.

I receive a lot of emails from newly independent cam girls asking for tips and strategies on succeeding in this niche, and while I try to be encouraging and helpful ultimately this niche is a difficult one in which to thrive. Very few camgirls who ‘go indy’ actually succeed in attaining a sustainable high income doing independent cam work, but a guaranteed recipe for failure is disliking the work, disliking one’s clients, feeling that as an independent cam girl one can just phone it in and go through the motions without negative repercussions.

Indy is hard, full stop. Creating, maintaining and growing a client base is hard and sticking with it through the ‘trial and error’ period is hard. If you don’t find a way to enjoy your time in this niche you won’t succeed, both because you won’t be able to perform to your full potential and because you’ll ultimately resent the time you’ve put in with little in the way of sustainable reward.

All that said, independent cam work really can be anything we want it to be; we’re independent entrepreneurs and we decide how to run our own businesses. What I’m arguing here is that if you don’t approach the niche with that in mind you will burn out, you will return to the cam sites and you’ll have missed out on an amazing opportunity to do your own thing on your own terms. To carve your own space you need to actually care about it though, you need to find something fulfilling in what you do in order to make all the hard work worth it.

I haven’t as of yet responded to the aforementioned email, to be honest considering the tone of it I suspect she’s left the niche already, but still I thought it was worth writing about here if only to give new skype cam girls a sense that they’re not alone if they’re feeling frustrated. Never forget that YOU choose how to run your business, and that as a skype camgirl you have the privilege of designing your work to suit you. There’s tremendous power in the fact that you decide how you work and when you work. In sum, find something to love in this field or chances are you will crash out. Not every day (particularly when just starting out) will be sunshine and roses, but if you embrace your job as YOU define it you’ll build a strong client base who enjoy you because you enjoy them, and your hard work will pay off.

Beyond that, life is too damn short to not love what you do. Good luck out there.