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Xavier, An Awesome Accompaniment to Fetish Webcam Sex

What is it about strap on fetish webcam sex? Before I got my strap on Xavier I honestly didn’t know what I was missing, but as soon as I received him as a gift from an awesome individual known here as D it was like he was a natural extension of me, not only of my body but of my mind as well.

Judging from the reaction I get during my fetish webcam sex shows it’s obvious y’all feel the same. Considering how popular my magnificent strap on cock Xavier is, sometimes I think he should have his own website. πŸ˜€ I’m writing about Xavier here on my fetish webcam sex blog because last night I received a skype message that actually made me laugh out loud; a playmate messaged with a ‘hello Lady J, is Xavier available tonight? I must see him’. What the fuck am I, the side attraction? πŸ˜€ Truth is though, I love weilding Xavier during my fetish webcam sex shows, he’s by far the most fun toy I’ve ever owned and when I wear him I can’t keep my hands off him. The moment I slip him on an incredibly Dominant and powerful side of my personality emerges, as in ‘rawr Lady J is in tha house, bow down and pay homage’, and you fall to your knees, lips parted to take a good face fucking. πŸ™‚

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Ultimately though my favorite aspect of my strap on Xavier is his versatility. Β His magnificent size makes him perfect for small penis humiliation, and he’s an excellent tutor in the fine art of cock sucker training. He adds a certain gravitas to my muscle domination webcam sex sessions, and he’s in turns sensual and menacing during my Femdom cam sessions, depending upon my whims and what my victim, erm, playmate deserves at the moment. πŸ˜€

In short, he’s awesome and he takes my fetish webcam sex shows to an entirely different level. That y’all adore him as much as I do simply means your taste in strap on cocks is as fine as your taste in nerdy independent camgirls. I have no problem sharing the spotlight with a strap on cock this divine.

How to Explore Fetish Cam Sex

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Fetish Cam Sex Should be Personalized

As a fetish camgirl there’s nothing that makes me cringe more than a guy who contacts me asking for “something kinky”. I mean, seriously. Could this possibly be any more vague? πŸ™‚ The reason why I cringe is that while the whole point of fetish cam sex is to explore desire, an implicit corollary to that is the point that fetish cam sex should be individualized. A fetish cam sex show I do with one guy won’t necessarily translate to an intense experience if explored with a completely different person. Every individual is unique and therefore so should be the shows themselves, which is why I’d argue that paint-by-numbers fetish cam sex is an oxymoronic term. I can’t just create a scenario all by myself.

Still, every one has to start somewhere, right? Not all that long ago some of the forms of fetish cam sex I enjoy the most were brand new to me, so I don’t expect that everyone who wants to explore kink is an expert on the subject. In fact some of my favorite fetish cam sex shows are ones where I introduce guys to a new form of roleplay or fetish, as it’s awesome seeing the excitement that can emerge when exploring the unknown. I have a pretty creative mind and I love to suggest new roleplay and fetish scenarios, that’s a huge part of what makes cam sex fun for me.Β Still, I’m not a mind reader. πŸ™‚ What’s kinky to one individual may be boring as hell to another, and while fetish concepts transfer well to different fetish cam sex shows, fetish skype sex is always hotter when it’s personalized to every session.

How to Ask For Satisfying Fetish Cam Sex

Any fetish camgirl worth her salt will naturally bring a ton of creativity to her fetish cam sex shows, but in order to ensure you actually receive an experience that blows your mind you need to fantasize a bit about what you want. Ironically this is even more important if you don’t know what you want. πŸ™‚ Close your eyes and let you mind wander…what is she wearing in your mind? Do you want to feel seized and molded to suit her whims or do you want to control the action? In your fantasy does the power shift mid way? What is your favorite part of the female body? Is she bitchy and cruel, innocent and inexperienced, seductive and sensual? Even the most seemingly insignificant details can provide a wicked jumping off point, so let your fetish camgirl know what is in your head and she can go from there…crafting a fetish cam sex experience personalized to what makes you tick.

Fetish Cam Sex is Uninhibited and Exploratory

While I love it when guys share their fully-formed fantasies and desires with me, introducing me to something new, some of my favorite fetish cam sex experiences have been ones that are a meander down what I like to call the garden path. At the beginning neither of us know exactly how to experience will turn out but we jump into it anyways, feeding off each other’s energy and excitement to create something awesome. You don’t need to be an expert in kink to experience wicked fetish cam sex, but you are an integral part of the experience. To get what will really drive you wild you have to be willing to share your fantasies and be a part of the creation, not a passive observer of someone else’s idea of what’s hot.

To have wicked fetish cam sex be willing to talk about what you want after you book a skype show. Share your thoughts and fantasies and really participate in the process of creating the experience. The fetish cam sex experience will be far more intense if you do, because you’ll actually be a part of it.

Skype Sex Shows with a Side of Dirty Talk

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Probably one of my favorite things about doing skype sex shows rather than greeting my playmates on a webcam site is the skype audio feature. Sure, on the cam sites phone is always an option, but phone with cam can be a bit unwieldly in that it distracts the hands from other more orgasmic pursuits. πŸ™‚

I’ve been thinking about that today cuz today I’ve done a series of skype sex shows with some of the finest dirty-talkers I’ve ever encountered on cam, and the aural element added something amazing to each one. There’s something incredibly hot about hearing a man moan, beg, tease, command along with seeing him, and I really appreciate (and adore) guys who aren’t afraid to really let loose and go full out with dirty talk, no matter the scenario audio adds something special to the experience. Really wicked dirty talk doesn’t come naturally to many, and I know a lot of guys (and camgirls) struggle with it a bit at first, feeling self-conscious and unsure as to whether their words are cheesy instead of hot. Let me put all that to rest right here and now, there is no such thing as cheesy dirty talk when it’s done in the context of two people diving into a skype sex shows…I mean, it’s not like the blood is all in our brains at that point anyways. Truth is, Β I consider myself to be a wicked dirty talker and yet some of the things I say during my skype sex shows would make me laugh out loud if I said ’em off cam or out of bed. That’s my point; dirty talk should be stream of consciousness, it should be a little bit ridiculous.

So yeah, along with cam to cam, skype sex shows with dirty talk can transform an experience from an ‘idea’ that’s somewhat artificial into something that feels authentic and divine. I know not every guy can use audio during skype sex shows, but when you can you gotta go for it. Huge props to the guys who do go for it, and who do it so damn well. Those are the kinds of shows that make a camgirl think, ‘god damn that was hot’.

To meet me on skype for a private (and loud) skype sex show, visit my skype cam sex booking page and then turn up your volume and let your imagination run wild.

Skype Webcam Girls and Payment Strategy: Independent vs Sub Account

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Like all entrepreneurs, as skype webcam girls we need to employ conscious strategy when designing our independent webcam businesses. In designing our businesses, deciding how to handle payment processing is one of the most important decisions we can make, and that’s why it’s been such a frequent topic in my information for skype webcam girlsΒ blog posts.

Deciding how as skype webcam girls to handle payment processing essentially comes down to a choice between three options: independent merchant accounts, sub-accounts of payment processing companies or a combination of the two. As I’ve explored before here, amazon gift cards, gift rocket and payoneer private loads are not suitable options for skype webcam girls who are creating thriving and expanding independent businesses.

The Pros and Cons of Independent Processing For Skype Webcam Girls

Since true sub-account payment processing companies tend to be very low risk from a security-of-funds perspective, the main benefit for skype webcam girls who handle their own payment processing is financial. When I decided to go completely independent and created my own Zombaio merchant account all of a sudden I was earning an extra 15% from each skype show booking I received, and over the past year that has added up to a pretty significant sum. Strike that, I earn a massive sum of extra money simply by handling things myself. For that reason, despite the hassle of installing the Zombaio script the effort was more than worth it for me from a financial perspective. An additional benefit of having my own processing is that I can scrub my own purchases, reducing my charge back rate by paying attention to the payment codes that are provided along with each customer booking.

The main downside of handling my own processing is that I eat the cost of chargebacks, as some processors charge a fee over and above the cost of the chargeback. Luckily (knock on laptop) I’ve yet to receive a chargeback on my own processing due to my personal scrubbing system, but the risk is there for skype webcam models who use an independent merchant system.

The Pros and Cons for Skype Webcam Girls Who Use Sub Accounts For Processing

The main benefit for skype webcam girls who use sub-accounts is ease of use. There’s no hassle installing payment scripts, and you don’t even need to host your own website since most payment processor companies for skype webcam girls offer payment links hosted on their servers. An additional benefit is that, since most adult payment processors (with the exception of Zombaio) require upfront annual fees, sub accounts can actually be more financially beneficial than independent merchant accounts for skype webcam girls who are still in the process of building their businesses and do not book high steady volumes of funds. The main downside is that sub-account processing companies typically charge 20-25% (a combination of processing fees and profit), compared with independent merchant accounts that typically take 10-15% percent for processing fees alone.

Skype Webcam Girl Strategy: Combining the Two Systems

So we’ve explored the pros and cons of independent vs sub account processing for skype webcam girls, but designing a strategy can be more creative than a simple ‘one or the other’. An additional issue to keep in mind is the concept of cascading billing, which is employed by most large scale adult companies. Cascading billing involves a set-up that provides additional payment options to clients and customers that were declined by the primary biller. This system increases sales simply because it’s not uncommon for legitimate clients to be declined by one processor, only to be accepted by another. For example, my primary processor occasionally declines even some of my most frequent clients, so having additonal payment options to offer them allows them to make a payment for a webcam show even when they are declined by my primary option. While I obviously strive to keep the majority of my clients to my own independent merchant account, having additional payment options increases my income, even taking into account the additional fee charged by sub account companies.

Issues For Skype Webcam Girls to Keep in Mind When Selecting a Payment Processing Company

The twin primary concerns for skype webcam girls who use payment processing companies are payout percentage and security of funds. In regards to the former, look for a company that charges no more than 20%, at maximum 25%. At 20%, you’re only losing 5-10% compared to handling payment processing independently. In regards to security, ideally skype webcam girls should choose companies that use a true sub-account system, where you have access to the ‘back end’ and receive payments directly from the processor, not the company providing you with the sub account. Having access to the back end allows skype webcam girls to ‘scrub’ their own purchases (thus reducing chargebacks) and receiving payments directly from the processing company reduces the likelihood that you’ll get ripped off if the provider of the sub account decides to close their business. Speaking as someone who had to sue my prior payment processing provider to receive the funds I’d earned through their company (happy ending, I sued and got paid back in full), security of funds is not a given when dealing with a payment processing provider. Had I been receiving payments directly from the processor when my old provider closed up shop, I would have received my funds as usual, without having to file a lawsuit.

Not many payment processing options for skype webcam girls offer true sub-account systems, so in choosing companies that handle sending out payments it’s important to select companies that send out funds weekly, with a very low payout threshold. That way, even if the worst happens and the company takes off with your funds, you’re only out at most a weeks worth of funds. Also, I would advise skype webcam girls to only select companies that offer adult-friendly payment options. Payment processors that offer skype camgirls paypal, for example, are doing you no favors. They don’t care about the security of your funds so your chargeback ratio will be sky high, and they don’t care about the sustainability of their payment system (paypal is NOT sustainable) so it’s just a matter of time until they close their businesses.

One of my top choices for skype webcam girls who don’t wish to handle their own independent processing would be CamGirlServices.com, a company that provides low cost and secure payment processing for camgirls. I’ve worked with this company for a couple of years now, and while I no longer use their processing in my cascade for my own customers (as they offer Zombaio, for which I have my own independent merchant account), I’m impressed with their system because it’s a financially optimal and secure option for skype webcam girls who don’t wish to host their own processing script on their own website server. CamgirlServices offers a true sub-account system with a 78% payout sent directly from Zombaio, meaning that security of funds is guaranteed and the cost of their service works out to $12 on every hundred earned, as compared to having one’s own independent Zombaio account. This is a great company that’s been around for quite a while, and I highly recommend ’em to anyone looking for a high percentage and zero risk payment processing option.

Update: In response to payout issues experienced by some merchants who use Zombaio, I’ve also created a payment processing option for skype webcam girls that balances high, frequent payouts with a low payout threshold. For further info please read this post.

There’s No One ‘Right’ Method For Skype Webcam Girls Designing a Payment Processing Strategy

These days it seems like everyone and their brother is offering payment processing to skype webcam girls, but out of all the options out there only a few offer secure payment processing at a low cost. While I highly recommend that established skype webcam girls with their own customer bases select independent merchant accounts, sub account payment processing companies do fill a legitimate need and can be a tremendous ally in building and maintaining successful and growing independent webcam businesses. The decision on how to handle payment processing is an individual choice each of us needs to make for ourselves (as each skype webcam girl will have her own unique business needs), so design a system that works best for your needs, think strategically and choose your partners wisely if you decide to go the sub account route.

Options for Skype Webcam Girls

CamGirlServices.com:

High payout (78%), no risk payouts (sub-account system)

PayMyShow.com:

High payout (80%), low risk payouts (immediate withdrawal of funds with no minimum), wide variety of payment processing options

LiveCamModelShows.com:

Highest payouts (80-85%), low risk (weekly withdrawal of funds with a $20 minimum, (plus I own it and I’m not about to fuck over my peers).

Options I’d Suggest Skype Webcam girls Avoid

ANY site that offers paypal as a payment option to customers

Skyprivate.com:

This is a relatively new addition to the payment processing scene, and while their payout is within the standard range of 75% their model contract contains some glaring issues. The contract grants the site exclusive use of one’s cam name (this is NOT standard in independent camming) and the right to sell your content commercially. This means that not only are you giving the site a percentage of each show, you’re providing the site with free content they can resell. Also know that selling adult content within the US requires that the seller provide 2257 documentation, which means your private information (ID scan, full name, etc) could be passed along to the purchaser of the content. The contract also (bizarrely) appears to prohibit ‘hard core sex shows’.
Additionally, skype camgirls who have joined this site have reported that charge-back ratios are unusually high and that receiving payments can take up to a month, which is not ideal from a security of funds perspective.
For the above reasons I’m personally quite wary of this particular site, and I haven’t been impressed by the owners refusal to respond to questions regarding his unusual contract terms.

Sometimes Fetish Skype Shows Surprise Even Me

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When Intimacy and Anonymity Meet Fetish Skype Sex Gets Explosive

Normally when I write here about fetish skype shows I tend to focus on the shows themselves, but today I want to do something a little different. I had a fetish skype show experience tonight that totally blew me away and I feel compelled to write about it, not just because the experience itself was awesome but because it revealed something unique and important about fetish skype sex, namely the ability it affords us to explore fantasies and desires that we aren’t quite ready to unleash upon the world.

As I’ve written before, one of my fav things about fetish skype shows is that they are once totally anonymous and totally intimate. As a result it’s the perfect venue for exploring desires without having to worry about how those desires may be perceived by close family and friends. Tonight was a perfect example of that, when a regular playmate worked up the courage to add an extra element to our roleplay that we hadn’t explored up until that point. Even before we got on cam he admitted that the new element was difficult for him to even articulate, but I’m so glad we did because holy fuck the experience was intense. Simply put: I’d never seen him quite that turned on during our prior sessions.

I felt pretty honored that he chose me as his partner in acting out his private fantasy, and even more so knowing that in doing so he had revealed something intensely personal and private that wasn’t all that easy for him to articulate initially. It didn’t occur to me at the time but thinking about the fetish skype show session later it hit me: THIS is what skype sex is all about. No matter where on the globe we reside we all live in societies that place rigid (and frankly quite boring) rules on what’s considered ‘normal’, and truth is sex is about exploring; exploring what turns us on, what fascinates us, what really makes us tick. The anonymity of cam sex enables us all to explore those fantasies and desires in ways we may not feel comfortable exploring off cam in ‘real life’ and that’s what makes it more than just a passive exchange of orgasms. It’s about revealing ourselves in a shared and safe private space.

I knew all that intellectually before, I mean hell I’ve written about it enough, but tonight really showed me exactly HOW the safe space of fetish skype sex allows us to explore things we may not feel comfortable doing otherwise. Not all fetish skype shows are profound, nor do they need to be, but this one was and it felt awesome. To the totally anonymous individual who shared that wicked experience with me, huge thanks for letting me share such a potent and private fantasy.

It was awesome, as are you πŸ™‚