Notes on Submissives Seeking Femdom Cam Shows
First off, some full disclosure here. While I tend to be ‘dominant’ in my off cam life, (I am an ENTJ after all), I’m not a lifestyle Domme in that I don’t participate in off-cam BDSM activities. Fetish sex of all kinds is something I sort of ‘grew into’ for lack of a better word, during my years exploring sexuality on skype and yahoo (wow that takes me back), and now on Discord and Telegram.
Probably my perspective on fetish cam sex is best summed up here, in that I don’t follow formulas and strictures, and I don’t involve myself in anything hard core that feels like I’m playing a role that doesn’t feel natural or authentic to me. That stuff I’ll leave to the amazing professional Dommes who hold far more experience than I.
For me fetish and Femdom is about exploration on both sides, and I really believe that Discord and telegram cam sessions are the perfect venue for exploring desires that many aren’t comfortable partaking in ‘in real life’. That said, fetish of all types has become an increasingly dominant (see what I did there?) 🙂 theme in my cam shows, and I’ve noticed some particular patterns that I feel warrant a post here on my camgirl blog.
What is Femdom To Me?
Discord domination involves me, or rather my alter ego Lady J, taking possession of your mind, your thoughts, your actions….even what you crave is given over to me to bend and twist according to my whims. Sometimes domination takes physical forms (such as CBT and flogging, oh the fun I have with CBT) but while I’m a huge fan of spanking and wielding my strap-on for forced bi shows I’m much more fascinated and entertained by the mental facets of Femdom. Particularly the sensual Goddess style.
To be honest most of my fetish sessions incorporate some aspects of both ‘harder’ Femdom humiliation and the gentle teasing of sensual domination (bi encouragement, anyone?). Since my entertainment is the first and only priority during fetish cam sessions, the mental and verbal is always at the forefront of my style of Domination.
 How to Be Taken Seriously When Seeking A Femdom Cam Session
Granted, I tend to be more of a workaholic type A personality than your average human being and I’ve turned ignoring annoying people in general into a precise art, but if I’m busy I tend to immediately ignore any professed ‘sub’ who messages me on Discord or Telegram by addressing me as ‘Goddess’. Why, you ask? I ignore these people because to me it’s a huge warning sign that the dude is simply looking for some free text chat to get off on his fantasy, and it also demonstrates to me that the person really isn’t all that interested in a unique and memorable change between two human beings. Goddess is a fairly generic term…Dommes who use the term ‘Goddess’ in their name do so as part of their persona, making that term unique and special to them. Stripped of any attached identity the term Goddess means nothing to me or to the guy who uses it, and besides, dudes need to pay to earn the privilege of calling me my Domme name of choice.
That brings me to my next point…another ban-worthy offense is expecting to get into specific details of what the individual seeks in a Femdom cam show show before he even books one. Part of domination, actually, part of being a decent human being is respecting the time of others. I know throughout the years I’ve banned some probably great dudes simply because they didn’t understand that fantasy chat isn’t free and I didn’t feel like stopping what I was doing to explain that simple policy to ’em. Does that suck for us both? Of course, but there are only so many hours in the day and I’m not gonna waste any of them separating the wheat from the chaff.
The way I look at it, before we enter into a Femdom webcam arrangement or session you’re not my sub, so don’t call me Goddess. And tip before you attempt to launch into a detailed narrative of your desires. That’s called ‘topping from the bottom’ sweetie pie, and that’s not something I’m into.
Granted, these rules are mine, but the principle behind them can pretty much be applied universally. As an independent camgirl with a deep penchant for fetish and Femdom I’m not paid to get naked, I’m paid for my time and undivided attention, and expecting to get that without paying for it just isn’t on, ever. If you’re serious about wanting a Femdom webcam session, contact me, give me a general idea of what you seek and then pull out your credit card. After those formalities are over with we can get on to the good stuff, which is exploring what I want to do to you on cam that will be magical for us both and having my way with you, preferably in cam to cam 🙂
I was compelled to write this because in this past week alone I’ve banned a couple of dudes simply because they messaged me with some inane variation of ‘o Goddess let me serve you’ and then proceeded to write a bunch of nonsense that I didn’t even bother to read. Yawn. They make me even more grateful for my real playmates who share experiences with me, instead of seeking a warm body to fill a pre-determined ‘slot’. I’ve never filled pre-conceived slots very well, I think that’s a good thing.
Catch ya soon, on your knees and begging for more 😛
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