Skype Webcam Shows Inspire Orgasms, Not Ovations


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Skype Webcam Shows Culminate With Orgasms, Not Ovations….

Because there are no ‘shows’ in skype webcams shows πŸ™‚ I came up with this new motto in an after-glow bliss after a particularly intense skype webcam show with a playmate who led ME down a garden path into a sensual, erotic, and slightly (deliciously) twisted fantasy that left us both a little giddy and breathless. This particular playmate was new to skype webcam shows, in fact I had the honor of inaugurating him into this little corner of the webcam sex world, and I think I blew his mind slightly. I hope I did, because the favor was definitely returned in kind.

Ultimately the absence of routine is my favorite thing about skype webcam shows compared to the mainstream cam sites I used what feels like decades ago (although technically it’s been five years). I never feel like I’m ‘performing’ for someone, rather, I experience things with my playmates, co-creating something wholly organic that speaks to us at that specific moment, in a specific mood. The opposite of a ‘show’. Sure every now and then I encounter a guy who wants a ‘faster, harder, do twelve different positions for me in 10 minutes bb’, but luckily those types are few and far between amongst the guys who are drawn to skype webcam shows, and I’m a happier (and far more satisfied) camgirl because of that. πŸ™‚

I know I typically write about fetish skype webcam shows here on my cam sex blog, but I felt this experience warranted an entry even beyond introducing my new little motto upon the world, as it really illustrates how wicked skype webcam shows can be when the bullshit parameters of the cam sites are taken out of the equation, when two people in search of something both intense and profound encounter each other and let the magic happen.

That’s what skype webcam shows are about, two people coming together to share a moment that is far hotter than any specific sex act could ever be. Ovations are for stages, full stop. Skype webcam shows are about inspiring something far more satisfying.

Indy Camgirls, Gift Cards and Wishlist Issues


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In my last post regarding alternative payments for webcam showsΒ I touched on Amazon Gift Cards, which seem to be one of the most popular options used by indy camgirls who dabble in indy camming. While Gift Cards are assumed to be a risk-free payment option, I wanted to clarify how to use gift cards safely and to clear up any confusion regarding gift cards and wishlists, which are two entirely separate systems with their own respective procedures and risks.

How Indy Camgirls Use Amazon Gift Cards

In selecting any payment method, security and anonymity are vital factors. For this reason, smart indy camgirls create ‘work’ amazon accounts that don’t have their real names or addresses attached. This is because it is possible for customers to contact Amazon and inquire about the personal info of the individual to whom they sent the card. From there, the most important thing to keep in mind is that you need to redeem the gift card prior to performing a cam show or sending content. Up until the gift card is redeemed it can be cancelled, so waiting until a later date to redeem to gift puts you at risk of being ripped off. Receive the card, redeem it and then perform the cam show. πŸ™‚

Many camgirls assume the it’s impossible for shady customers to chargeback gift cards, and while chargeback rates with this payment option are very low, it is possible to have a gift card refunded if a stolen credit card was used to purchase it. Know that even after redeeming the gift card there is a very slight chance you’ll have the value of the card refunded.

Amazon Wishlists and Indy Camgirls: Issues To Keep in Mind

The main thing to keep in mind when creating an Amazon wishlist is that as an indy camgirl your privacy needs to be a top concern. For that reason, smart indy camgirls set up a P.O. Box through which to receive wishlist purchases, as the wishlist system does leave quite a few holes in security of private information. The primary issue with Amazon wishlists is that many items featured on Amazon are sent via a third-party distributor, and third-party distributors tend not to uphold Amazon account privacy settings. This means it’s quite easy for customers to track down your name and address if a wishlist purchase is sent through a third party. Unfortunately even confining one’s wishlist to items delivered straight from Amazon itself isn’t a guarantee, as I’ve heard of indy camgirls who had their account information shared with purchasers when the purchase was confined to Amazon itself. For that reason, I’d suggest no indy camgirl set up an Amazon wishlist without having a P.O. Box or other anonymous address through which to receive gifts. The risks of having your address and full name revealed to any random person on the internet is just too high to take chances.

Another issue with wishlists is that they aren’t viable options for cam show payment. Up until the time an item is shipped the purchase can be easily cancelled by the purchaser, so wishlist purchases are NOT a secure payment option for skype cam shows or custom videos. If you do want to accept wishlist items as payment, wait until the item actually arrives prior to performing the skype cam show or sending the video, as up until the day it arrives at your door there is no guarantee you will actually receive the item purchased.

Amazon Gift Cards and wishlists will never replace secure and reliable payment processing for skype cam shows, but for indy camgirls who do want to avail themselves of these systems it’s important to know how to do so safely, protecting both your personal information and your time. In sum, never attach your real name and address to an Amazon account you use for indy camming customers, and always redeem gift cards as soon as you receive them, prior to completing a skype cam show or video order. Lastly, let your customers know that wishlist purchases are not a viable form of payment and never perform a cam show based on a wishlist purchase you haven’t yet received.

While I don’t accept Amazon Gift Cards and don’t have a wishlist, these are great services for indy camgirls provided they’re used appropriately. Safety first, always πŸ™‚

Do You and Eff the Noise: A Camgirl Mantra


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While every skype camgirl needs to keep on top of events in her niche as they unfold, there’s such a thing as being too involved. πŸ™‚ Here I’ll be discussing the policing of others through what I simply term ‘the noise’ and I’ll be adding my view on why this sort of micromanaging is a total waste of time.

What is the Noise: Camgirl Distractions

Simply put, I characterize ‘the noise’ as paying far too much attention to what other cam girls do, say and charge, and I really believe that in order to achieve your peak level of camgirl success you need to avoid that kind of distraction. This noise is a risk for all types of camgirls but I think independent camgirls can be much more negatively impacted by these distractions because we occupy a smaller niche than our peers who work the ‘big box’ cam sites, and we often share customers in common due to the smaller pool of playmates who choose skype cam sex shows (although happily this pool is growing rapidly, to all our benefit) πŸ™‚ We know our peers in this niche, we visit each other’s sites and we stay on top of changes as they occur in our little niche of the cam sex world, and the reality is it’s impossible to be successful while not paying attention to changes as they unfold. That said, being over-involved in the choices of others is self-defeating and distracts from the goal of building strong and independent camgirl businesses.

Staying attuned to the industry is far different than obsessing over the actions of our peers. Every day I read and hear independent camgirls complain about the rates charged by others and the types of shows offered by others and I think this is type of mentality is a total waste of focus and energy. Yes, we’re all ultimately competitors in this niche, but the singular actions of another camgirl can never hurt your bottom line or your business. Below I’ll be outlining and rebutting some of the main ‘noise’ complaints I come across.

Camgirls Who Charge Less are Ruining My Business!

Deep breath sister, no they’re not. Here’s why: men who visit independent camgirls are seeking unique and personalized skype cam sex experiences, if all they wanted was a lowest cost option they’s be on a free tube site watching videos, not messaging you. Cam show cost is not the determining factor for most cam sex customers, they simply want to have a wicked time with a camgirl who shares their vibe and interests.

While as a group we do collectively set the tone for average rates in our niche, for most guys rates aren’t the primary concern: finding the perfects camgirl (or camgirls) for them is. Truth is, even the guys who are ‘bargain hunters’ quickly realize that girls who charge far below average tend to give their shows less than their all, but most guys they simply want a camgirl they click with, a camgirl they know will do their best to make a cam sex show extraordinary. Charge whatever you need to make doing skype cam shows worthwhile and the guys who want what you offer will come.

Cam Girls Who Do Extreme Acts are Taking My Customers: I Can’t Compete With That!

Speaking as an independent camgirl who isn’t comfortable with extreme acts, my reply would simply be this: don’t compete. The types of shows desired by our playmates are as varied and expansive as our customer base itself: not every guy is looking for double anal while squirting and spinning a top. πŸ™‚ If you don’t want to perform extreme acts, carve out a unique niche for yourself and rock it.

I’m trying to be careful about how I word this section, because I don’t want to suggest that there’s anything wrong with camgirls who perform extreme acts or the customers who enjoy them. Truth is there isn’t anything wrong with extreme: it’s simply a matter of personal boundaries and personalized tastes. All I’m saying is that there’s no need to feel threatened by girls who do extreme cam shows, they’ve simply chosen a niche that works for them. There’s no real reason why any camgirl needs to follow ANY particular path in order to achieve success, so choose another niche and excel within it. Do your own thing amazing well and the guys will come. Even better, they’ll revisit you. πŸ™‚

I’m a pretty staid camgirl when it comes to extreme shows…hell, I don’t even do anal, but I’ve never felt that my choices have hindered my earnings. This is because I’ve focused upon other aspects of cam sex that I do enjoy and I’ve tried hard to cultivate my skills in my chosen niches. For real, getting all upset over a camgirl who chooses to perform a different style of cam sex than oneself is about as logical as getting irked by camgirls who speak another language. Not every camgirl will appeal to every customer, so make sure you do your best to stand out in your niche by giving your shows 100% every time you turn on your cam.

That Camgirl Said Something Awful on Twitter

Ahhh, the twitter wars. As I’ve talked about before I’m doing my best to use twitter even though I hate it, and I’m constantly amazed by how many people seem to enjoy fighting with strangers online. This is the worst type of time wasting, AND advertising, as every camgirl who engages in social media fighting is essentially broadcasting to the world that she has way too much time on her hands. Camgirls who are successful and busy don’t have time for this sort of thing. Even worse, the only people who would be interested in this type of drama are those who are equally bored, and those people aren’t customers. In reality, our playmates visit us to get away from discord and drama; they seek escape, not the burden of immature scuffles. Fighting on the internet is not smart or hot; rather it alienates real customers and attracts bored cellar dwellers who will never book a show but hang around for the cat fight. Walk away and be the better person, it isn’t worth damaging your image or your peace of mind over nonsense.

Why Is ‘The Noise’ So Damaging?

I look at the matter this way: as an independent camgirl I’m responsible for every aspect of my business. If I succeed it’s due to me. If I fail I’m responsible. Taking responsibility for our businesses is a vital mentality for all entrepreneurs, in that the alternative of focusing on perceived external barriers to success prevents us from focusing on what WE can do to alter and adapt to enhance our bottom line. Focusing on the behaviors of others detracts from us focusing on ourselves, and it negates the power we have to forge our own unique enterprises through our own unique ideas. Blaming others is the opposite of taking responsibility, and I’ve found that cam girls who rail against and police the actions of their peers tend to forget that they have a tremendous amount of agency in determining the success or failure of their business.

In sum, ‘the noise’ is a toxic element involving the overpolicing of peers, and every camgirl focused upon building a successful business needs to avoid it. Do your own thing, do it exceedingly well and you’ll find that the actions/behaviours of your peers that you find objectionable aren’t at all relevant to your business. Trust your work ethic, trust your skills and give this job 100% and you’ll succeed no matter who else is doing what. Do you and fuck the noise.

Messenger Services for Independent Cam Sex Shows

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As an independent camgirl I’m primarily a skype cam girl, but there are a ton of free private messenger/video call service options for independent cam sex shows under the sun so I figured I’d break em all down here. Even though I strongly prefer skype for my cam sex calls, skype takes up a ton of bandwidth and isn’t ideal for those with less-than-stellar internet speed, so if you’re a fan of independent cam shows and skype boots you or your playmate offline unceremoniously one too many times, below I’ll be discussing Β some of the other free options available. After all, in order for cam sex to be awesome the calls actually have to work.


Yahoo Messenger Cam Sex Shows

Yahoo is always my preferred initial point of contact with potential customers and playmates but the service does support video calls as well, not just instant message (IM) chat. That said, the quality of video streaming on yahoo is less-than-stellar, and I find my playmates cams freeze on me far more often that with other services. There also seems to be an issue at times when my playmate and I are using two different versions of messenger…every now and then a video call ‘answer’ button will be inoperable and only returns to working function after my playmate logs out and returns. That’s annoying, for both of us.

Still, I do find yahoo to be an invaluable back-up service, in that it’s one most people tend to have already so it’s easy to access if skype is overloading the bandwidth of my playmate. Yahoo messenger supports free one on one video calls and you can choose to have IM’s sent to your mobile phone if desired.



Skype is my favorite messenger service for independent cam sex shows (as if the fact that I call myself a skype camgirl wasn’t enough of a tip-off) πŸ™‚ mainly because I like the video call clarity compared to yahoo, I’m familiar with the service and it seems to be the most widely-used amongst my customer base. With skype voice an video calls are free, but in order to do group video calls one party to the call needs a paid skype premium account. The major drawback to skype is that many of my playmates with less than great internet connections get booted off of calls, so while I love skype I’d never use it as my sole option for independent cam shows. I also like that I can block an unlimited number of unwanted visitors, and can control who can see my profile and avatar image as well as who can initiate a video call. What I don’t like is that my conversation history on one computer does not always show up on another computer, which makes it annoying if I need to scroll through the chat history to find a piece of info a playmate has sent me. If both parties only wish to do one on one video calls and have ideal internet upload/bandwidth capacity, skype is an ideal choice. That said, look below for other options available to independent camgirls


AIM Cam Shows

Yes, it’s still around πŸ™‚ I’ve personally never used AIM but it is apparently still a viable option for independent cam sex shows. It supports IM chats through one’s browser (the other party doesn’t need to have a download themselves) and group IM chat, however only one on one video calls are supported, there is no free group video call option.


ICQ for Independent Camgirls

I use ICQ for IM contact with webmasters (most adult webmasters seem to prefer it for some reason) but I’ve never used it for independent cam sex shows. The reason why is that, beyond adult webmasters most North American guys don’t seem to use it. The main downside to ICQ is that when I have it open I tend to receive a LOT of spam messages and contact requests, but you can easily ban/silence unwanted visitors. ICQ is mobile-friendly and supports free one on one video calls (there is no free group video call option) and there is a large community of chat rooms (including adult-friendly chat rooms) available if that’s your thing.


Camfrog for Independent Cam Sex Shows

Count this in as another service I’ve never tried. Still, from what I’ve gleaned Camfrog is both adult-friendly and mobile-friendly, has a user directory (which can be a good or bad thing, depending upon whether you want people to contact you unsolicited) and has an option for login through Facebook. Obviously this latter feature is a huge no no for independent camgirls who don’t wish to broadcast to their entire network of family and friends that they work selling independent cam sex shows, so be wary of using the Facebook login option. Camfrog supports free IM and person to person video calls, but not a group video call option.


Eyeball for Independent Cam Girls

With Eyeball independent camgirls can IM with contacts from their AIM, Google Talk, MSN and Yahoo lists all fro Eyeball Chat, which is a cool feature for independent camgirls who use several of these services simultaneously. Another plus is that Eyeball supports free video calls with up to 5 participants, and like ICQ provides access to a range of chatrooms.


Google Talk

I have to confess, I struggle with Google Talk. Maybe it’s the Luddite in me but I find it cumbersome to access and confusing to use, and I like to actually understand what I’m trying to explain to my playmates πŸ™‚ In order to do cam to cam video calls each party needs to download a ‘hangouts’ plugin, and each party needs a google plus account in order to carry on video calls with more than one person simultaneously. I dunno, maybe one day I’ll actually try to wrap my head around it, perhaps not right before I begin a call πŸ™‚


Oovoo for Independent Camgirls

With Oovoo independent camgirls can video chat with up to 12 people for free, and it also supports a few features that I think are pretty cool. You can watch a video with your cam sex partner during your cam to cam video call (ideal for watching porn during independent cam sex shows) and you can also create an up-to five minute recorded video which would be great for independent camgirls who are looking for a way to send preview videos to customers. I just link ’em to my youtube preview video but a range of options is always a good thing. Oovoo is mobile-friendly and also allows camgirls to embed a live video feed right on your website, access to which you can control through passwords. One major downside however is that with Oovoo video call participants can record the video call without having to download (or pay for) any extra software or plugins. Not great for independent camgirls or customers who want to minimize the risk of getting recorded.


PalTalk for Camgirls

I think I may actually look into this one πŸ™‚ I’ve yet to use Paltalk but it has a range of features that sound interesting and unlike Oovoo don’t make it uber-easy for video call participants to record the call. With PalTalk you can import yourYahoo, MSN, AOL and Facebook (nix the Facebook idea please) contacts and the service supports free group calls. Independent camgirls can also create their own video channel URL through PalTalk and embed a live video feed right on a personal website. PalTalk also has a variety of community chat rooms for those who are interested.


I’ll admit, I’m a huge create of habit in preferring skype and yahoo over all other services, but in my defense so are many of my cam sex playmates. I like yahoo for initial contact and skype for video calls both because these seem to be the two most popular services amongst my customer base, and secondly because…well, I’m used to ’em πŸ™‚ Still, with MSN messenger being merged with skype (MSN used to be my second choice service for video calls) it never hurts to have at least a couple of options available to cam sex playmates who have internet upload/bandwidth that is too low for Skype.

That’s the beauty of being independent camgirls, we can run our business they way we want, and adjust our options according to the needs of ourselves and our customers.